Thursday, March 20, 2008

Are children need us!

You’re strolling through the grocery store, browsing through and out of the blue come some disruptive children. These children are skating all around on little tennis shoes with tiny wheels hidden underneath the heels of their shoes. They are clearly being disrespectful, and their parents, who are sometimes staring right at them, do nothing. Okay, let me give them the benefit of the doubt, they say to them, “Come on let’s go Johnny!”, but no correction of the child’s behavior is made. I got even a better one than that. You’re in a restaurant, and a child is throwing a fit, and the parent leans down and says “what do you want?” or makes a comment to associate that they are the child’s servant, and the child is ruler of the home. My Lord, my God, what is going on? The surprising thing is, some of these parents are professing Christians. Amazing! Have we forgotten what the bible says? Before I begin, let me make this clear, parenting is not an easy thing. I have two sons one almost three, and another almost two with a third son on the way. By the help of the Holy Ghost, you have to really work. Yes, parenting can drain an individual, although through the Lord Jesus Christ of the scriptures, we can raise children that are saved and sanctified by the blood of Jesus Christ. Yes, it is possible beloved! So what do the scriptures say? We must understand that the bible alone gives us instructions on how to train up our children in the way, even though we face a evil and wicked generation. Parents, true Christian parents, are responsible for raising their children, so we can place our hope in the Lord Jesus Christ!

Training Up a Child by the Bible


Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

We have heard this scripture a lot throughout our years in this professing Christian society. But what does this passage really mean? The verb train up (chanak) in Hebrew means to narrow, to initiate or discipline – to dedicate, train up. It is the verb used at the beginning of this passage to describe an action taking place. It comes from the root word that means “to put into mouth”. This passage emphasizes the importance of parental training so that children will develop that taste for things of God. In Ephesians 6:1-4, we see the New Testament affirming this same pattern. Training up a child in the way that he should go is giving a child a balance of love and discipline as to not to provoke them to wrath. So how do we perform this passage in God’s Word?

First let us understand that Jesus Christ is the only way:


John 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the WAY, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

If we are to bring our children up in the way, we must understand first that Jesus Christ is the way. To keep them from going to a place of wrath, we must show forth love by forbidding them not from the kingdom of God (Luke 18:15-16). We should not hold back from reading the scriptures to our children or talking to them about how Jesus Christ came to this world in the flesh and died for our sins as the way to be reconciled back to God. Young Timothy is a good example of this. As a child he was involved in being reared in the Holy Word of God (2 Timothy 3:15). I encourage you fathers to seek the scriptures that you and your wife can teach to your children. Actually all parents should do the same.


Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Second we must be consistent in our discipline of our children. Correct your children when they dishonor you or anyone. I believe a spanking will not hurt them. Tell you children what sin is, and let them know that God forgives, be He also chastens to.

With a balanced atmosphere of the Word of God and discipline, our children will be able to grow and desire the things of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Problems we face in this evil and wicked world

What brings us hindrance is the current state the United States is in. Recently in my home state Maryland, a young boy murdered his whole family. He killed them, went out with a couple of friends, and came back acting like he was surprised at what happened. Read the article here. We should not be astonished because the Lord Jesus warned us in the scriptures this would take place:


Mark 13:12 Now the brother shall betray the brother to death, and the father the son; and children shall rise up against their parents, and shall cause them to be put to death.

2 Timothy 3:1-4 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

Another trend that I have seen myself is how parents are slacking off with their children. My wife use to work as a childcare provider, and reported to me several times how the 2 year olds knew about their parents fornication and cussing etc. When confronting the parents about such behaviors (mind you some of the parents are professing Christians), they would sometimes allude to the fact that it was okay. OKAY? Little Janice dancing like a hoochie momma is not cute! Yet this is the mentality of parents coming up today in the US. It’s okay for momma to go to the club, cuss, and fuss and if my child does, its cute too. Also you will find parents in this evil day thinking that there child is their friend as well.

To put it to you plainly, this is the way of the world, for the scriptures say:


Proverbs 14:12 There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

We are killing our children, not with just abortion, but with this Super Nanny nonsense. Children are dying a slow death and the parents are looking to the Super Nanny to solve their kid’s behavioral problems and the world cannot do it. I understand, behavior is tough to deal with, but we must deal with it by the Word of the Lord. Parenting books seem great and give really good advice, but your best advice is to obey God’s Holy Word.

Parents are Responsible

Leviticus 10:8-11 And the LORD spake unto Aaron, saying, Do not drink wine nor strong drink, thou, nor thy sons with thee, when ye go into the tabernacle of the congregation, lest ye die: it shall be a statute for ever throughout your generations: And that ye may put difference between holy and unholy, and between unclean and clean; And that ye may teach the children of Israel all the statutes which the LORD hath spoken unto them by the hand of Moses.


Deuteronomy 4:9 Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons;

Deuterinomy 11:18-25 Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your soul, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates: That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the LORD sware unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth. For if ye shall diligently keep all these commandments which I command you, to do them, to love the LORD your God, to walk in all his ways, and to cleave unto him; Then will the LORD drive out all these nations from before you, and ye shall possess greater nations and mightier than yourselves. Every place whereon the soles of your feet shall tread shall be yours: from the wilderness and Lebanon, from the river, the river Euphrates, even unto the uttermost sea shall your coast be. There shall no man be able to stand before you: for the LORD your God shall lay the fear of you and the dread of you upon all the land that ye shall tread upon, as he hath said unto you.

The ball is in our court as parents to lead and guide our children in the ways of Jesus Christ. Our children follow what we do. I hated going to church because I was drug so many times to go to the show. I eventually learned to act fake like my parents did. I would smoke weed on the side, and act like Jesus boy on Sunday. Why? This is what I say in my home, this is what I was taught. Look don’t tell your kid not to cuss if you cussing. How can you tell him to turn off the TV if you are watching it 24/7? Remember Christ said:

Matthew 5:13-16 Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men. Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

If you do that which is just and obey the Word of God, your children will see how a true believer of the Lord Jesus Christ lives. Surely they may want a taste of that! Also be consistent in your discipline and correction. Spanking is allowed as a form of correction, the scriptures say so:

Pr overbs13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

I would suggest you don’t beat your child because you’ve had a bad day. That’s abuse! No, correct your children, spanking him/her will not hurt them. Let the scriptures give you a balance as to when and how you should do it. The main thing is, through spanking or some form of discipline, we must as Christians correct our children. This world is out of control, but we have Christ Jesus, our blessed hope. I’ll leave you with a great example of what happens when you don’t bring proper correction to our sons and daughters

1Samuel 2:22-36 Now Eli was very old, and heard all that his sons did unto all Israel; and how they lay with the women that assembled at the door of the tabernacle of the congregation. And he said unto them, Why do ye such things? for I hear of your evil dealings by all this people. Nay, my sons; for it is no good report that I hear: ye make the LORD'S people to transgress. If one man sin against another, the judge shall judge him: but if a man sin against the LORD, who shall intreat for him? Notwithstanding they hearkened not unto the voice of their father, because the LORD would slay them. And the child Samuel grew on, and was in favour both with the LORD, and also with men. And there came a man of God unto Eli, and said unto him, Thus saith the LORD, Did I plainly appear unto the house of thy father, when they were in Egypt in Pharaoh's house? And did I choose him out of all the tribes of Israel to be my priest, to offer upon mine altar, to burn incense, to wear an ephod before me? and did I give unto the house of thy father all the offerings made by fire of the children of Israel? Wherefore kick ye at my sacrifice and at mine offering, which I have commanded in my habitation; and honourest thy sons above me, to make yourselves fat with the chiefest of all the offerings of Israel my people? Wherefore the LORD God of Israel saith, I said indeed that thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed. Behold, the days come, that I will cut off thine arm, and the arm of thy father's house, that there shall not be an old man in thine house. And thou shalt see an enemy in my habitation, in all the wealth which God shall give Israel: and there shall not be an old man in thine house for ever. And the man of thine, whom I shall not cut off from mine altar, shall be to consume thine eyes, and to grieve thine heart: and all the increase of thine house shall die in the flower of their age. And this shall be a sign unto thee, that shall come upon thy two sons, on Hophni and Phinehas; in one day they shall die both of them. And I will raise me up a faithful priest, that shall do according to that which is in mine heart and in my mind: and I will build him a sure house; and he shall walk before mine anointed for ever. And it shall come to pass, that every one that is left in thine house shall come and crouch to him for a piece of silver and a morsel of bread, and shall say, Put me, I pray thee, into one of the priests' offices, that I may eat a piece of bread.

1Samuel 3:11-13 And the LORD said to Samuel, Behold, I will do a thing in Israel, at which both the ears of every one that heareth it shall tingle. In that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house: when I begin, I will also make an end. For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.

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